Re: Dear Debi...
Our weight loss journeys are comprised of many paths, and each day we rise to make choices about which path we will follow. While our choice at the beginning of the day may have been one that is clearly defined by our goals, we often encounter unexpected detours that bring us to the end of the day wondering how in the world we got so lost - again. It's only a matter of time before we lose heart and sit down in frustration, confused over how we have traveled so far and yet we have made little or no progress.
In these times we are faced with one of the hardest, and yet most rewarding, paths to choose. This is the path that forces us to stop worrying about the numbers on the scales and look inward to the root of the maladaptive behaviors that are sabotaging our journeys. This is a path that we cannot travel alone, for our perspective is distorted by old habits and addictions which will lead us off of the path and right back to where we started, feeling like failures. However, with the right "guides" we find that this path may have some difficult spots but for the most part it is filled with very rewarding and exciting parts.
Contact your surgeon and have a frank and honest discussion about where you are on your journey. Perhaps he/she can suggest, or refer you to, a counselor or support group. Also, understanding what struggles you are facing might help your doctor make adjustments to your band that can offer more physical support while you deal with the emotional side of your journey.
And, of course, we are all here to encourage and support you in any way that we can. You are not alone on your journey, nor are you alone in the frustrations that you are experiencing. Many of us have been there, or are there now.
Remember, Debi, this isn't all about losing weight. It's about becoming healthy -- mentally and physically.
Dr. Bryan Anderson
Banded & Branded: Jan. 09, 2006
HEIGHT: 5' 5" WEIGHT: 307/222/150