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"Just Jess"
11-25-2008, 11:33 AM
saw this article today and COULD NOT relate to it more.... this time of the year it's hard for me to find time to take a breath!!!!!!!!! how about you? feeling stressed??? read on.............................................

How Much Does Your Stress Weigh?
by Katie Jay, MSW, Certified Wellness Coach

Imagine your WLS success hinges on an old-fashioned scale like the
scales of justice. The more balanced your life is, the better your success.

When thinking about the balance you must attain and maintain in your
life, take time to consider the "weight" of your support versus the
"weight" of your stress.

When additional stressors cause the scale to go off kilter, it's time to
increase your support and bring your life back into balance.

In Anatomy of a Food Addiction, author Anne Katherine discusses
the need for people who struggle with eating issues to match their
level of support to the level of stress in their lives.

Ironically, during the holidays when your stress level is often at its
highest, you might let your support systems fall to the wayside.
You're too busy. You deserve some treats. You will deal with the
weight gain after the holidays.

The holidays trigger a variety of feelings: happiness, guilt, love,
anxiety, excitement, loneliness, joy, depression, gratitude, and
self pity. And feeling cause stress.

When your life becomes busy, hectic, complicated, and trying,
these are the times when you are most tempted to overindulge.

As you enter into this holiday season, consider these tips for
lowering the stress in your life:

The buddy system: Ask a friend, neighbor, or even a coworker to
be your buddy. Sometimes just talking to a safe person about your
stresses and your WLS efforts can help. Maybe your buddy would
also be your accountability partner. Knowing that you have to
report your progress to someone other than yourself will increase
your success rate.

Extra de-stress time: Don't allow a busy schedule to wreak havoc
on your WLS efforts! It may sound cliché, but you really do have
the power to carve out some free time for yourself.

You may want to get up 30 minutes early to meditate. Take a
long lunch break, if that is an option for you, and read something
inspirational after you've eaten. Most members know that I enjoy
a cup of hot, peppermint tea every evening before bed. This is
MY time and I treasure it. If you make de-stress time a priority,
somehow you will find the time for it.

Exercise consistently: The dreaded "E" word. Some people like
to exercise and some people don't. Maybe you are one of those
people who just never enjoyed working out. I would challenge you
to challenge yourself with regard to exercising.

Once you get into a routine of any kind, whether you walk around
the block, bike, or try Tai Chi, you will be surprised at your
physiological response, as well as your psychological response!
Be prepared for more energy and a better, more optimistic outlook
on your circumstances.

When I ask how much your stress weighs, I also mean how much
will you weigh because of your stress. The scales don't lie.

Your Assignment:

Think of three ways you can reduce your holiday stress
(and yes, put getting more support on your list!).



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"Just Jess"
11-25-2008, 11:37 AM
The assignment:

1. getting more support (finding an accountability partner)
2. taking time for myself each and everyday to stop and think and put everything in perspective (i love the peppermint tea idea!)
3. going to the gym (my doc approved me to go back to the gym on dec. 1st - i will make it my job 3x's a week to be there - no excuses)

--SPEED--
11-25-2008, 11:59 AM
if only....

"Just Jess"
11-25-2008, 12:29 PM
.........sorry???

--SPEED--
11-25-2008, 01:56 PM
if only I could de-stress....

"Just Jess"
11-25-2008, 01:59 PM
ahhhhhh... gotcha!!! do try! ;) can you come up with ONE way you might try?

wingsfly825
11-25-2008, 04:19 PM
Im with speed on this one...oh if holidays were the only stressful time in my life... i could come up with one destresser one way ticket to a tropical island with no forwarding address.....................

--SPEED--
11-25-2008, 04:49 PM
I have lived my entire life being stressed, to the point that is taking its toll on my body and strating to weigh on my marriage as well, I hate the way I am but I have been this way all of my life and I dont know how to be any other way... I wish I could enjoy my life while I have it...

wingsfly825
11-25-2008, 06:22 PM
Im sorry speed. Maybe getting the band is the first step for you . I dont know how to relax and enjoy life as much as i should. I have a 19 year old son who is clean now but was a drug addict so when he walks out the door my mind sometime races and i have a daughter who on her 17th birthday ran away, she is home now (this was a few days ago) but i worry about her. needless to say i have turned into a what if ? person.I also get manic attacks, they started 20 years ago and come and go. I didnt mean to go on about me but i guess im trying to tell you that you are not alone in your stressful wirld. We all have our levels of stress with different things. Some are from childhoods others just from life. I know we all feel really alone sometimes , i want you to know you are not alone...big hugs

wingsfly825
11-25-2008, 06:23 PM
i ment panic attacks not manic....

Dustbunny
11-25-2008, 06:41 PM
Thanks Jess, This is speaking to me.
No time for exercise, too busy to plan what I can eat or to shop for it, no time to read and a big one is too stressed out for sex. No time for all the things that can make it all better.
I need to make time for all these things first before I do other things. it's like paying yourself first and puting money into savings before spending the rest of your paycheck. Put your time where it does the best for you. Thanks Jess.
I'm going to do all those things I mentioned much more often. DB

"Just Jess"
11-25-2008, 07:19 PM
;) welcome!!! glad you "heard" what i did!!!! and i love the paycheck/bank analogy!

itsfinallytimeforme
11-25-2008, 09:42 PM
This holiday is different than years past for me. Do you know what? I am becoming very selfish with myself.

1- Nothing comes before my trainer and my exercise time, I go six times a week, three times are very hard and the other three are cardio and light weight training, and every day is sweat box time. Nothing can get in the way of this, its medicine, its therapy, its my support!!!

2- Food is not important anymore, that is to cook for someone else, I dont enjoy it anymore. Cooking was my passion, baking was pure pleasure, but this year two of my kids have been diagnosed with Celeiacs disease, and wha laaaa no wheat for them and non gluten baked goods are not that tasty so no baking.

3-I realized again why we are celebrating this upcoming holiday, and wht it means to all people. and how its celebrated, rather , christian, jewish, muslim, buddhists, there is a reason for celebration. Why not read up on these things, maybe it will give us all support to keep going!!!!

4- Did I say I am becoming selfish? I smile now because guess what its not selfish, its truely good self care. Something that we are not allowed to do because we have to make the holiday majical for our children and guess what I have learned twenty years too late.


Our kids dont want stressed moms, they want a soft gentle place to land when their lifes get to stressed. They want our arms to circle them and whisper in their ears, this too shall pass, and you are loved!!!!

We dont need perfect christmas trees, decorations and a gourmet cookie tray that will put Neiman Marcus to shame!!!!!

I say, down to wanting to be a Martha Wannabe how bout we just take good care of ourselfs so we can handle, christmas paper, parties, last minute oh Mom I need ninety six cupcakes for school tommorow, and oh Mom, tommorow I need a gift for the teacher, and the costume for the christmas pagent by seven pm sharp!!!

MY favorite saying is this

Do the best that you CAN, and CAN the rest!!!!!!!

This year, my stress will weigh a big fat ZERO!!!!!!!! I am going to enjoy this holiday, I am going to not sabatoge my weight loss, it may not be big this month, but I refuse to stress about that too, this year coming will be the true rebirth of my life, its time for me people and this time I believe it.

This is my year to shine, my 50th year, just watch me, just you wait and see, for the first time, I WILL BE FIRST!!!!!!!

I challange all of you to join me in the first STRESS FREE< GOOD SELF CARE< THE NO I DONT WANT TO BE THE CHRISTMAS PAGENT DIRECTOR, HOLIDAY SEASON!!!!!

brwneyedbeauty
11-25-2008, 10:35 PM
I need to de-stress too bigtime!! Hmm Maybe Oh Miss Betty could help me find a hot guy to help me with that!! ;-)

--SPEED--
11-26-2008, 05:44 AM
thanks.... yeatserday was a really bad day for me, hoping today will be better, I do think the band will be good for me, I know if I can start feeling better that will go along way with my stress,Wings, I am glad your children are home and ok, I wish all of you a happy thanksgiving !

itstimeforme - wow, you have left me speachless, I wish I could say the same about my life, way to go !!

newlifeat57
11-29-2008, 10:33 AM
.....kids dont want stressed moms, they want a soft gentle place to land when their lifes get to stressed. They want our arms to circle them and whisper in their ears, this too shall pass, and you are loved!!!!.....Do the best that you CAN, and CAN the rest!!!!!!!.....

Beautiful words.... and the greatest quote ever!! Love it!


..... Hmm Maybe Oh Miss Betty could help me find a hot guy to help me with that!! ;-)

I'm with you!!! Where's Betty when you need her LOL!!!

One thing I am working on, is that i need to stop taking on the problems of others. I cannot save everyone. I need to be a little selfish and take care of myself first. MY health comes first.

Thanks Jess, great article.

redgrldj
11-29-2008, 12:27 PM
There is a book called " the 1 minute manager meets the Monkey" It tells you how to stop taking other on other peoples monkeys... Monkeys aka other peoples crap...




Beautiful words.... and the greatest quote ever!! Love it!



One thing I am working on, is that i need to stop taking on the problems of others. I cannot save everyone. I need to be a little selfish and take care of myself first. MY health comes first.

Thanks Jess, great article.

newlifeat57
11-29-2008, 01:01 PM
Thanks, Red for the suggestion... I think that bad habit comes from working with kids most of my life AND being the oldest child with no parents (died very young).

itsfinallytimeforme
11-30-2008, 09:06 PM
Oh how I wish that I could redo my entire life sometimes, and learn that WE CANT SAVE THE WORLD!!! I too get in that trap. but my sisters and brothers in bandland, we need to, excuse the pun, ban together and help each other to follow self care and make sure we come first!!!!!

I Challenge all of you to join me in this journey, starting now, this moment after you read this to make a promise to yourself, to us to the world


I promise to make my health needs come first, I promise to exercise daily and not allowing anything to get in the way

I promise to not let myself get overly stressed this holiday season and most importantly

I promise to to take time for me every day, to pray, or laugh, or just to breathe!!!!

Join me, support me, and lets make some changes!!!!!!

sign me

Self care mama

Jo Ann

--SPEED--
12-01-2008, 12:31 PM
words of wisdom... lol Im trying to live up to your example !!