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Diva
11-28-2007, 06:17 PM
Hi,
I took a break from B2G, this community sure has grown and it made me a little nervous. I'm a very private person and it's difficult for me to really open up.

Anyway, I was banded in August 2006. It was supposed to be a new beginning. I'm pretty controlling and I was determined. DH had a great job with great insurance which paid for the surgery no problem at all. The surgery went great. I was going to lose 100 pounds in year, I was going to succeed! But then all hell broke loose.

There is a yiddish saying translated roughly means "Man plans and God laughs". Yep.

Long story short-DH gets downsized and is unemployed, MIL gets seriously ill and cannot live alone-my job is just ok with virtually no benefits. We lose DH fabulous insurance package. We need to find a new home, move our stuff, my MIL's stuff from her old house, find a new house and move everything all in about a month while MIL is in hospital and rehab. Meanwhile, my Mom is gravely ill in another state.

I have never in my adult life had no insurance. DH has health problems and this is very scary. And no insurance = no fill. We are going slightly crazy with worry about the 2 Moms. jobs and our own health. Good times Good times:ohwell:

So we make the move, my Mom has continued to have health issues hundres of miles away from me and DH started a small biz while still looking.

I find out I can eat. No restriction. So I start eating and dieting and eating and dieting and eating and dieting. Can't afford to go out much but we can afford pasta. We have summer guest so we get to eat out with them. Blah Blah Bla

Out of the lousy crappy 50 pounds I lost I gain back 20 or more. Oh I am ever so proud of myself. I need to get right back on B2G and tell everyone what a fabulous bandster I turned out to be.

Then, I get my dream job. I started about a month ago. And we have fantastic insurance again! So I am making my fill appointment and will get the whole gig barium swallow and all.

And so we begin again. And this time I made my goal 150 not 135. Reality is as reality does.
Wish me luck and keep my Mom in your prayers.:nod:

Dustbunny
11-28-2007, 06:23 PM
Diva:
I love stories with happy endings, you've got me here in tears. I'm so glad you got that job and good insurance again! Hope your Mom's condition improves. When you get your fill be careful not to Weasley. Deb

mimi r
11-28-2007, 06:30 PM
Just tell it like it is, girl!
The band is a tool, not cure! Hang in there, I was banded Nov 19th, 2007. I may need you for the same support this time next year!
Sounds like you have your ducks in a row & things (brain & insurance) are moving in the right direction.
My prayers are with your Mom.
Mimi R (Phyllis in NC)

Diva
11-28-2007, 07:37 PM
Diva:
When you get your fill be careful not to Weasley. Deb

Oh wow you remember that! At this point I haven't felt restriction in so long I almost wouldn't mind an occasional Weasley just a tiny one maybe Ginny-sized!

Thanks Deb!

Vegaswildflower
11-28-2007, 08:48 PM
welcome Back Miss Diva,, we have missed you, jump right in get confortable and look forward to making those dreams come true!!

MoOrLess
11-28-2007, 09:00 PM
Hey Diva - this place is never too large to the point you can't be open and share life's ups and downs...heaven knows you've had your share.

I missed you and I am glad to see you back -- just remember, your experiences help others....yep we could all use a few less obstacles but we all live and learn!

Congrats on the new job - I'll keep praying everyone regains their health in the new year and you find peace, with banded life and life in general!

Kathy
11-28-2007, 09:46 PM
Ahhh, welcome home, Diva. It's good to see you back. I always enjoy your quick wit :)

Check out my sig and count your blessings...you could be me! :eek: Hang in there. It's a long ride for some of us. Don't go it alone, okay? :thumb:

DebbieChoos
11-29-2007, 03:02 AM
Diva

Whew, I was this close to marching my "red-soxy" ass up there to make sure you were ok! I am soo glad that things have worked out on the job front (was it my recommendation that did it?) - not having benefits in this day and age can be scary to say the least!

Sorry to hear that your Mom is still not doing well, I know that has to be emotionally draining. And the MIL, any better, she's not still hallucinating is she?

I'm glad poked your head out in time for the holidays, anything you need you just let me know. Selfishly, I have missed my Diva. Use these guys for all and any support that you need. I have faith that you will be back on track in no time. You Italians and your pasta....

HeatherGurl
11-29-2007, 06:14 AM
Oh, welcome back Diva!!! I have missed your wonderful humor also. I am am now officially dubbing myself the queen of weight gain. Twice now I have got down to a lovely weight, and then got a complete unfill and gained 30 pounds in the blink of an eye! :) I am so glad the pages have turned for you and we are here for you! You will have that weight back off in no time.
WELCOME BACK!!!

Maryanne
11-29-2007, 07:28 AM
Hey Diva,
Welcome back! I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. Better times are coming. Congrats on the new job! I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

SheryBery
11-29-2007, 10:14 AM
Welcome back Diva! I've missed your humor so much! Nothing has made me laugh harder than you and the "Weasley" comments. I'm sorry things have been rough, but seems things are looking up for you. Please come here for the support you need! We need you!

Shellster
11-29-2007, 10:51 AM
Welcome back....life happens, doesn't it? You know you can always come here and gloat, vent, bitch, whine, cry, etc.....we wouldn't have it any other way! I'm glad to hear that you are getting things on track. I've missed your very witty posts....

Diva
11-29-2007, 07:39 PM
Thank you guys!
I really, really appreciate all your good wishes. I just can't get back on the band wagon without support. It doesn't seem to be a one woman job.
Yes, things are looking up but the DH really needs to find something more substantial than the consulting/web pages he's doing. Now that his Mom is settled in he can feel more comfortable leaving her in her apt. downstairs alone all day. Even if he had found a great job right away it would have been extremely difficult logistically.
My Mom is my biggest worry and I'm not there she lives hundreds of miles away. So that is very hard on us all.
But we have great humor if nothing else and I'm thrilled with this job.
I hope 2008 is better than 2007!!!!

chrispygal
12-02-2007, 06:27 PM
Hey Diva, glad to see you back!!! :)

NurseTeresa
12-03-2007, 08:00 AM
Diva welcome back! Glad that things are looking up for you. I will continue to keep your mom in my prayers that things get back on track for her soon. Congratulations on the new job with great insurance. That has to be such a great relief on you. Please seek us for your support. That is what we are all here for isn't it? To support each other.....