Who will you be when you reach goal?

[PhotoNut]

When I was first banded, I had this odd fear of not knowing myself when I reached goal. Would I still be funny? Would people still see me as jovial and personable? Or would I be lost with the weight that made me, me.

So far, I have lost 91 pounds and I am still me. In fact, I don't really notice I've lost that much weight unless I try on old clothes. Perhaps I my fear shouldn't be about me changing, but rather about me NOT changing. Will I go from being a thin person trapped inside a large body, to being a fat person trapped inside a thin body? *laughs*

Can any of you relate to this?

[Jachut]

Hmmm, I suspect a lot of my less desirable traits will not have vanished. I'll still be messy and disorganised and bad at sticking to the budget (and lying about it, lol). Its really hard to not fall into that trap of thinking life will be perfect when you're at goal weight.

But I think subtly I've changed - even though I was never a person who let my weight stop me doing anything. Its hard not to feel more confident, and yep MORE BEAUTIFUL when you cant stop looking at yourself, lol. I dont know, I always put the effort into my life but in some way I feel like I"m more worth it now. Everything is nicer when you dont have the problem of your weight dragging you down.

I may not have gotten "that" big but it was a shadow following me everyday, knowing that it was only a matter of time. I'm an eternal optimist, I didnt let it get me down but it was there.

[503-250]

I will be the hairy guy on the Harley smoking a cigar and laughing my ass off.

[NotSoFunny]

I'm gonna be the hottest chick in the clubs in Ybor City!! LOL

I was afraid that I would never get to what I was before. Now I know I will because i have been seeing the weight just melt off of me. Its weird. But at the same time I do have those days where i really feel like i have not lost anyhting. then someone will see me and make a comment and I know it is working. Oh! and I am also down so many sizes my pants just fall off. Who would have ever thought that would be a bad thing...but its hard walking through walmart while you are hiking up your shorts and pushing a cart at the same time!

[Telly]

You will see a rockstar on a motorcycle - preferably a sportsbike (im looking for one right now). I'll have on my shades, my thick sole'd boots, spikey hair, a few noticeable tattoos on my back in the asian characters saying, "Eat my Dust". If my back isn't noticeable then I'll be wearing a bike jacket saying "SAVAGE".

That's me ..20 more lbs.

[Diane]

Telly, can you drive by MY house?!?!?!?!?!? :Banane03:

[JoyceGA]

I will be bungee jumping and winning Amazing Race. I've already lined up two friends who promised to do it with me. Of course, NOW that I am actually losing the weight and more active -- they are getting nervous.

If you haven't read Phil's book, do so!!

When I reach my goal...

~ I will do adventure travel.
~ I will clean the house in a day, instead of a month.
~ I will max my Neiman Marcus card.
~ I will go to the spa each week.
~ I will work in my garden and make it a show place.

[Telly]

Dianechef, what is your house?:dizzy: . I'm scared.

Joyce wowzers. You've got some really great goals. I like the garden showplace. Now the bungee jumping........my goal door is :closed_2: for bungee jumping.

[Vegaswildflower]

I have alot of Ideas,

Ill be a size 12 goddess

Im going to be a go go dancer!! Life Dream!

Im going to be able to fit into the rides at six flages and have some room to slide around..

My Dh will love me the same and I will love him more for it

I will hike,and enjoy it again

[503-250]

It would be interesting to bunjee jump again after I lost weight. I did it a long time ago and it felt like every joint in my body seperated and that my appendix was sticking out of my mouth like a party favor.

[Tricia K.]

I'll still just be a dork, but just a skinnier version. :Dancing_nerd:

And hopefully, early on next year I'll be :preggers:! We plan on having a lot of fun practicing. :Banane46:

[Idahobeauty]

I will be off cpap for good, my diabetes will be non existent, and I will be swimming and biking daily. I will fit into a pair of Levi 501's and look adorable. I will be the wife that all of my husband's friends and co worker wish they had!!!!

[HeatherGurl]

Hopefully I will be someone that stops caring about what others think so much. I want to live life without wondering what the guy next to me thinks about it.
I thought I would be thru at a size 12 but I still feel like a size 26/28! What is up with that?

[Diane]

Telly - ROFL!! My house isn't scary. :faint2: I just want to see you riding down the street with the cool outfit & tat showing on your back!! You'll be one hot chick!! :boxing:

[Telly]

Telly, can you drive by MY house?!?!?!?!?!? :Banane03:


Oh sheesh! I completely misunderstood what you said. Yeah I can drive by your way. Where are you?

["Just" Paul]

I want to be the intelligent, handsome leading man...

Not the gruff, or humorless, stoic, or abrupt sidekick or other character.

I wanna be the handome one (I'm not bitter about this in my current acting work, can you tell!?!?!).

Of Course my wife has already told me with the roles I get:
1. No porn
2. No nudity.
3. No kissing other women (or men)
4. No porn

This sure has killed a lot of auditions. I mean, porn pays!

[503-250]

So basically Paul you just want to go from being a red shirted security guard to say...Sulu?

[NotSoFunny]

esp the ones where you get to kiss men!!

[Diane]

Tell - I'm in AZ! HA. Just a hop, skip & a jump from Florida. :ohwell:

Paul - Give it up. You aren't doing porn. Listen to your wife.:twitch:

["Just" Paul]

OK... OK no porn.

Geez, tell everyone you plan on doing gay porn for cash and they suddenly begin labelling you.

Unbelievable. ;)

[Telly]

ROFLMAO!

I'll happily do Gay Porn. :) OMG, I'm just kidding folks. I'm kidding.

["Just" Paul]

LOL

Will it be available on Netflix?

[A1ikou]

I want to be able to go into a crowd of people (in whatever circumstances) and be able to know from the first seconds that I am no different to anyone else, that I can blend into the background and be as anonymous as the next person.
Well, except at my 40th bash next year. There I want to wear a fabulous outfit and to be the complete centre of attention in a room of friends and family who have no idea (yet) I am doing this and who are (hopefully) going to be shocked and happy on my behalf.
So that's it- to be able to choose. To blend in when I want and to stand out when I want and not when my body size dictates.

[NotSoFunny]

very well put Ali. I have the same feelings you do.

[AnnDe]

I will wear a white wedding gown ( maybe ivory) that will be strapless and renew my vows at a outdoor wedding, celebrating our 25th annviversary. I will enjoy shopping and hopefully not have the fobia of the mall like I do now. I will enjoy life to its fullest. Maybe even be a grandparent by then! I will WATER SKI!!!!! Oh I can't wait to be at goal!

[NotSoFunny]

oh we are going to renew our's too. I am so excited. I will be in a bikini with a gauzey wrap around skirt. And it will be on the beach....somewhere.

[MiaHalliwell]

Hmmm, I suspect a lot of my less desirable traits will not have vanished. I'll still be messy and disorganised and bad at sticking to the budget (and lying about it, lol). Its really hard to not fall into that trap of thinking life will be perfect when you're at goal weight.



This sounds so much like me, LMAO!

My husband tells me that when I was thin, I was a much happier person and much harder to upset.
I think that just happened with age. I think that my depression about not being able to wear certain things to look good for my husband will go away, and maybe I might have a sex life again. My husband claims that he loves me no matter what, but mentally he finds it hard to be intamate because he isn't physically attracted to my body. (He admits that he is shallow)
I hope to be a more active person. I don't want to be the "fat wife" on the street. I don't even want to be the thinnest wife on the street, I just want to be me. I definately feel like I am in a fat suit and can't get out! When I get to goal, I won't feel like that, I hope!

[MiaHalliwell]

I want to be the intelligent, handsome leading man...

Not the gruff, or humorless, stoic, or abrupt sidekick or other character.

I wanna be the handome one (I'm not bitter about this in my current acting work, can you tell!?!?!).

Of Course my wife has already told me with the roles I get:
1. No porn
2. No nudity.
3. No kissing other women (or men)
4. No porn



This sure has killed a lot of auditions. I mean, porn pays!


Paul, you are handsome!!!!

[Goannabanda]

I'll still just be a dork, but just a skinnier version. :Dancing_nerd:

And hopefully, early on next year I'll be :preggers:! We plan on having a lot of fun practicing. :Banane46:

ditto to all-a that, an' I'm gonna be the hottest Goanna EVER!!!

[LapBandit]

I'm still gonna be a goofball too, but hopefully a goofball who's met Mr. Right.

[Barb]

I will be the energetic person my husband married a long time ago. I want to be the one my kids friends say "dude, that is your mom?" (not a milf mind you..just looking young...yea)
I will be the one walking into the tattoo parlor
.......................on the cruise ship with my hubby.
.......................roller skating down the street with my 9 yr old.
.......................who will be walking in my cap and gown on graduation day (3 semesters to go..yeah!!!)
.......................sitting confidently in a fitted suite at my interview for my teaching position.
.......................lying in the chair getting my belly pierced.
.......................wearing cowboy boots with my jeans on the weekend.
.......................wearing the big silver hoop earrings because I am not afraid to draw attention to myself anymore.
.......................with a big smile on my face!!

[Jill]

I'll be the one with enough conifidence to fly to a party in Philadelphia and meet 25 people she's known from EverQuest for 3-5 years - to stroll in, and be herself and enjoy herself and know for sure that she's one of the prettiest ladies in the room.

Oh wait, I did that two weeks ago :p

I'm 33 pounds from my original goal. And my head is at about 90pct of my goal of being ME again. I'm hoping to hit 100% before I hit the weight loss goal :)

[jacelogic]

I will be ME again. My mom saw me sat. And was almost in tears. She said she knew I could do it. And that the person that I had become was not me. Yeah right! Tell me about it. I am a DIVA(in a nice way) and nothing is going stop me now. NEVER!

[diva girl]

It would be interesting to bunjee jump again after I lost weight. I did it a long time ago and it felt like every joint in my body seperated and that my appendix was sticking out of my mouth like a party favor.

Hahahahahahahaha! Thank you....I needed a laugh.

lyn

[housecatgirl]

Demi Moore...she's so hot!!

[Mrs Sabre]

I will still be me, but physically & emotionally better! :)

["Just" Paul]

Demi Moore...she's so hot!!

Screw Demi Moore...

Be Hotter!:nod:



I was hoping to be Dudley Moore... or maybe Mary Tyler Moore...

well, more or less. lol

[diva girl]

Screw Demi Moore..

I was hoping to be Dudley Moore... or maybe Mary Tyler Moore...


Paul...... Hahahahahahahahaha.....you guys are cracking me up.



Ok...I'm gonna feel free to be myself, not always the jovial happy one but just me.

I'm not going to be afraid to see people I haven't seen since I got fat.
I'm going to go to every reunion.
I'm going to visit my family more.
I'm going to call old friends when I'm in their town.
I'm just gonna have more fun.

[Plainsneech]

I am going to be a Five foot 11 inch amazon in black stiletto heels, lowrider jeans, and a black baby tee with a pierced bellybutton and a tramp stamp on her lower back that says "I Know". Man I almost feel sorry for my husband cause he's gonna have to bring his A level game daily to keep up with the new me. :heh: :heh: :heh: Yeah Baby !!

[PhotoNut]

*snort*laugh*snort*

You go, Plainspeech! :woot:

[Natural-1]

Plainsneech, you are a diva right now girl. I feel you on that one!!!!

I tell my hubby all the time, watch out cause I'm not use to all this attention I'm getting. Anyway, he's always been my number 1 fan :first: before, during and now after the process so he's a keeper!

I am a sexy diva;
I'm wearing my low rider jeans and my cowboy boots;
I'm wearing my form fitting dresses and showing off the curves; and
I am no longer the fattest in the room but I am still the tallest (& I love that!).
I do have more fun but my personality hasn't changed, I am still the same old girl just more confident.

[PhotoNut]

Gosh, I'm looking at old threads tonight and this one was great! I laughed and smiled, but I wonder what those of you who posted on here will think when you read what you wrote almost a year ago. Are you who you thought you'd be?

Those of you who haven't posted on here, please join in and we'll look back with you a year from now and see what's changed in your lives.

I love my band!