Why?were All Friends Here

[melissatx]

:confused:I see so many posts that have tons of views and very little replies. I thought it might be nice if we could reply to people when they have had their surgery. Make them feel good, cheer them up a little bit.

I am not saying reply to every post but havent you ever posted on here and then felt a little let down when you get so few replies.

I think it would be great if we could all welcome the newbies, reply to those who are discouraged or those who are nervous about their surgery. I know there are some really nice people here who only read and rarely post so come on lets all post!

ok I am shutting up now:cool:

[NotSoFunny]

Melissa - I hear ya. But one thing you need to understand is that we have TONS of visitors who do not even have accounts. that is why sometimes it might seem like the views are out of proportion with the replies. We all do our best to respond to as many posts as we can, and offer as much support as we can.

I applaud your request for us to be more vocal. It is certainly the crux of support on here. Maybe more of the lurkers will sign up and post to offer more support to those who need it. :)

[PhotoNut]

I'm posting just so Melissa gets a response. *snicker* (sorry, I'm in a good mood, which usually means I'm a brat)

I really love the fact that you took the time to post this though, Melissa. It shows how much you care about others and want to make everyone feel welcome and important. That is SO sweet!

Funny's right though, the views may be by guests who don't have the ability to post until they register. Sometimes I come on and quickly browse through the threads, reading all I can so I can keep up with as many people as I can. Then, when I have more time, I'll go back and post a response. I probably miss some of them, but I try not to. Everyone's post of frustration, joy, celebration, or cry for help deserves to be answered.

You know, just my own thoughts now... Some times, just one response is enough to bring two people together and spark a new friendship that develops into something very special. And then some times, when there are 50-thousand replies, each with their own opinion or suggestion, I wonder if the impact of the information in all those replies is reduced.

Another thing to consider is that it may take a few days for everyone to actually see the post and respond. Last week there were 92 new threads started and 1,695 posts made. So far this week (one full day) there have been 22 new threads started and 449 posts made! The bigger we get, the harder it is to see all new posts.

Thanks for posting Melissa. I too hope it encourages more folks to activate their accounts and start posting!

[Alicia521]

I can only speak for myself. I check my subscribed threads first and then I sort through new posts. I try to welcome all new members – but I’m sure I overlook some. I will try view all new threads. If I can offer help or suggestions I post, if not, I don’t. Most of my viewing is at work, so if it is something that requires a lot thought for example I may try to remember to go back later at home or when I’m not so busy. Usually by then I’ve forgotten. Sometimes when I am busy I just lurk. That’s my 2 cents.

[cathy]

Ditto! And some days, there just seems to be some many new things going on and things are busy. It is sometimes strange to see one thread really take off with tons of replies....and some sit and linger, lonely with no replies or very few.

Unfortunately, it is easy to take it personally if you started the thread - - -but really, a person shouldn't. Sometimes people just don't have anything to add or they are just too busy. But yeah - sometimes just a "nothing to add....but good luck" might be nice!

[Kathy]

One feature that I wish b2g had (and tell me if there's a way to get around this) is a little checkmark beside threads I have posted on. Thataway, I'd be able to keep up with just who I have said "welcome" to without scanning through 3 pages just to find my reply. I just can't hardly keep up somedays!

Alicia, how do you go through "subscribed threads"? Am I missing something? I usually hit New Posts and do my best from there. That handy checkmark is what I rely on when I go to other boards...which I barely ever do now...so now what?

But you are right, Melissa. I'll try to do better! :)

[Alicia521]

Kathy, the threads I have posted on do have a check mark by them.

I access subscribed threads by Quick Links and the Subscribed threads.

[NotSoFunny]

yeah when you look at the post listings there is a little image with a note, and a few add ons depending on the thread. one of those little add ons, or elements, is a curved arrow at the top left corner. that means you have responded to it.

I made the images. :)

[NotSoFunny]

http://band2gether.net/images/statusicon/thread_dot.gif this is the image I am talking about. there will be other elements added to it depending on the popularity of the thread. but that little arrow means that you have replied.

[maudeispam]

I try to post to a fair amount of threads, but if I posted to every thread everyday I would be at the computer 24/7. I try to show support to my fellow bandsters and love the support you all show. Sometimes the threads can be utterly depressing and if I'm in a good mood I don't want to read sad or negative stuff. On the other hand if I am in a pissy feel sorry for my jabba the hut butt mood then I don't want to read how great someone's day, life or weightloss is going. Maybe I am wrong for thinking that way. But we all have opinions, just as we have cracks in our arses. JMO. By the way thanks for posting this...well said.

[pageturner]

I don't think I realized you can be registered for different threads. Looks like I need to go back and read the thread for new members!

[kebsa]

I say again what i have said before, out of all the boards i have have visitied, this is theone where the support and encouragment is most genuine and occurs quickly- I think the point about viewers rather than active paticiapnats is quite true. some other baords get very clicky adn spiteful comments can be made and i think that makes new mamembers a bit retisent about actually posting. All i can sya is fromt eh day i joined, if i ask for comments or support I get them! today is a good example- i had tough night after my dog got out in a stomr, i was heart broken adn i got wonderful support replies back. AS for welcomeing new members, as long as they go through the new members area, we will see them, occasionally if a new mameber posts in a different spot oneof the mods will move it so that it will get seem- we do try but it is a growing site so can take a while to cathc up with everyone. If you ever post and get no replies and feel strongly about it, send anohter post, just pointing out that you are looking for advice/support what ever, it will bump the trhead up again adn will make it most likely to be seen. If you persists will us you will find this is a support friendly place.
Now you have had 12 reposnses to you comment, perhaps the fact that you have not replied just illustrates the fact that it can take awhile toget bacvk to a particular thread- we all need a bit a patience and understanding tehn this place will contnue to be s wonderful safe haven

[Goannabanda]

Melissa - I don't really have anything else to add other than echo what has been said by yourself already in your post, and also the replies. ...but thanks for posting the thread anyway!

[A1ikou]

Melissa, I think most of us do try and post as much as we can. Speaking personally I reply to new members when an hello and welcome is needed and as for other things I post when I think I have something to add be it advice, encouragement or praise. Sometimes I read and dont feel I have anything to add and sometimes I just dont have the time to say all I'd like to.
I'd like to think that everyone feels welcome here and if someone doesnt get as many replies to a particular thread that doesn't mean that we dont like or respect their views...it just happens.
Thanks for thinking of everyone though...we all need to feel as valued and as important as those we are interacting with -online and off.

[melissatx]

Thank you for all the replies to this thread. I do apologize for not responding quicker. I have a terrible kidney infection and had to go to the doctor yesterday. I am worried that with surgery on the 25th that it might delay it. oh well I will start another thread about it and see.

I do appreciate everyone replying and I now have a better understanding of why I see so many views and fewer replies.


thanks again everyone I really do appreciate all of you

melissa

[kebsa]

Melissa, take care of yourself and that infection, they can make you feel pretty low- hopefully you have enough time to get over it before your surgery date but if they do postposne it just try to remember that it is a tempoary hitch that is aimed to keep you safe, you would not want to end up with septicemia while recovering from major surgery- as I say though I am confident that your surgery will go ahead!

[Kathy]

Side Note: I'm getting check marks now. Yay! I subscribed to the threads, I just requested No Email notication. I think. Whatever, it works. Thanks!

Take it easy, Melissa. Keep us posted.

[diva girl]

Ok...I need to do what you just did , Kathy. I get email notifications (like crazy) but no check marks. So....how'd you do that?

[Kathy]

User CP
Edit Options
Default Thread Subscription
highlight No email notification

does that help?

[NotSoFunny]

wow kathy should be a mod!! :)

[CandaceLynn]

Is there any way to expand the most recent posts section? That would probably help.

Sometimes I want to post but don't know what to say...

[PhotoNut]

Candace, try clicking on the New Post link on the menu bar across the top of all b2g pages (between the b2g chat and Search links). This will show you the list of all the most recent posts. (The bolded ones are the ones which haven't been viewed.)

[kebsa]

I use the new post list as my first point off contact, as well as searching for specific threads-it works well