Since you wanna pick on me then here is my side...

[Laurel86]

Indigo says to me: "why are you 200+? when i was 20/21 i weighed 117." ARE U F'N KIDDING ME? WOW....and she claims i said that it is her fault for being fat. First of all, I said "it's own fault" meaning it is anyones fault. It is my fault for gaining weight. No one forced me to eat. It is not generic...I have friends who are big and have the skinniest families. Don't try and turn my words around and turn every1 against me. And at the heat of the moment while writing my email, yes I said that "to ME the band is an easy way out" TO ME!!! for christs sake....i was having second thoughts. I only meant I felt like I was giving up to quickly. So I am giving weight watchers another chance. I didn't say it was the easy way out for everyone. I said it was for me because I didn't explore all my options yet. For someone with life's experience, then yes the band is a good idea because nothing else worked. I feel attacked and picked on. And how dare anyone on this site question my weight!!!! Wasn't this site made for support? Well, it seems as soon as I found out I couldn't get the band yet, people stopped supporting me. And Neil is the only one who told me to stick around anyways because you guys will still support me while I'm on WW. God bless him cuz he is the only one I felt support from Even the owner of this site picked on me by stoking the fire under Indigo. Please people...act your age. And it's too bad you had to change my words around to make it seem like I said something completely different.

[HeatherGurl]

"I know this is a very difficult decision... I hope that you can decide what is best for you.
We are all here rooting for you, no matter what you decide to do!"

I said it once to you, but I will say it again... We are all here for you no matter what path you choose to loose weight.

I am sorry that you feel attacked or picked on. I read all of your threads and I saw a lot of people showing support towards you so I don't think it is fair for you to attack the site as a whole. I am sorry if someone was ugly to you thru a PM, but that is private and not my business.

[PhotoNut]

I'm going to let you speak your peace about this Laurel. If you were misquoted you have the right to say so and get that corrected. Please do not try to turn this into some kind of war. You have always been welcomed here, you have always been supported and encouraged. I would appreciate your cooperation now in keeping our boards on a mature level and focused on lapband support.

[Laurel86]

I will be mature but do not close this thread because I deserve the support. Indigo posted 3 TIMES her peace. So I deserve mine.

[SheryBery]

I hope you find what works best for you, Laurel. And I hope you can realize that you're not being picked on. This is the most supportive site I've ever found. And "the owner of this site" as you call her, is the most caring, supportive person you'll ever find. I didn't find her words igniting any fires. She's made this a safe place to be. This weight loss journey is hard and very emotional for all of us. We're here to help & support you in whatever way you find works best for you.

[Firefly]

Wasn't this site made for support? Well, it seems as soon as I found out I couldn't get the band yet, people stopped supporting me. And Neil is the only one who told me to stick around anyways because you guys will still support me while I'm on WW. God bless him cuz he is the only one I felt support from Even the owner of this site picked on me by stoking the fire under Indigo. Please people...act your age. And it's too bad you had to change my words around to make it seem like I said something completely different.

That's pouring it a bit thick, don't you think? The thread you made about not being sure if you wanted to go through with the surgery, 7 people posted their encouragement for you to do what you think is best and wishing you well no matter what. I think that's a good ammount of support right there.

As for 'stoking the fire', I don't agree with you. No one was making fun of you, either.

I wouldn't have said a word however you decided to go generic with your responses. "We people" have done nothing but encourage and support you. I took extreme offense to that, if you couldn't tell already, and to be honest I don't like your lack of appreciation. If anyone should be on a rant, it should be the rest of b2g. If Indio has a problem with you, she should keep it to pm's.

[LaDonna]

Wow, I read all the responses and I thought that everyone was being supportive. You asked for opinions and you got them. Just because you don't like the opinion doesn't mean you should attack. This is a supportive site and I hate to see it blasted.

[PhotoNut]

I will be mature but do not close this thread because I deserve the support. Indigo posted 3 TIMES her peace. So I deserve mine.
I absolutely agree with you, which is why I changed my mind as soon as I posted that I was going to close it. See the edit explanation on that post.

To everyone else. I know from past experiences that it can be very easy to become offended by someone's words. Especially when those words were "spoken" passionately. It is clear to me that both sides (Laurel and Indio) mistook words that were spoken and feelings got hurt. Hopefully they are able to get this resolved between them, but if not I really do not want this to become a board issue. So please refrain from posting anything that is only going to form an US vs THEM mentality. We are all here for support. Let's focus on that.

Thanks

[Laurel86]

Ok Sara...whatever. This is wasting my time. I wanted to stay with this site and continue to get support. But I don't think some particualr members want to give me support. (There you go I didn't refer to all of B2G) So I'm not sure if I wana stay with this site at all right now. Even if I don't get banded...how will I know I can turn to anyone on here for advice? I dont know what to think right now...Indigo should have never posted our PM's on the boards. Thats why its called a PM. So it stays private. And she posted it on all 3 of my boards. I am having alot of mixed feelings about this site..I wana stay with it but I don't know....

[PhotoNut]

Indigo should have never posted our PM's on the boards. Thats why its called a PM. So it stays private. And she posted it on all 3 of my boards. I am having alot of mixed feelings about this site..I wana stay with it but I don't know....
I completely agree, which is why I put a stop to the two that I saw as soon as I saw them. Now, can we please let this go and get back to the topics we are here to discuss? Sh*t happens when we have this many people all trying to communicate about issues that people are very passionate about. Chalk it up to that, and let's move on.

[Laurel86]

Ok I'm done with the drama.

Moving on....WW has worked good so far. Only 2 days and I'm down 4 lbs. I wanna loose 20 lbs by my birthday (Aug 4th) And if I stick to this diet my mom is letting me go to California with her and my grandmother in August. :) So I have motivation. Plus one of my guy friends is going to boot camp in 2 weeks for the army and he will look amazing when he comes home in March. So when I see him again I am going to look good. (Cause we do like each other more than friends but cant commit because of the army thing) lol.

So yea...anyways. :)

[Firefly]

So don't let one person ruin it for you. There are plenty people here who are not banded, and to tell you the truth, the ones who aren't generally are just living the banded lifestyle without the band inside. JoyceGA and myself, for examples. Just like you though, I have plans to be banded in the future, it's just not happening for me yet.

No one will be turned away for support and advice. If you ask for it, you're very likely to get it, whether or not it's something you really want to hear.

[SheryBery]

Good luck with WW Laurel!

[HeatherGurl]

20 lbs by your birthday is a very reasonable goal. You can do it!

[Laurel86]

Thank you! :)

[Neal R.]

Sounds like your off to a good start Laurel Wishing you all the best.

[catkreeger]

My husband is riding my skirt tails .He is not banded but eating the things I eat and is losing more than I am. I like many others have tried all the diets and failed, and as some of you know after 40 and menopause it is twice as hard to lose. Laurel you are young and may be able to lose and keep it off with a lifestyle change,I wish you the best of luck for the future. I am banded and would not change anything.

[Txblue_eyedqt]

Thats great Laurel, keep up the good work. You can do this!!

[Will]

Yep Laurel, my hubby isn't banded either. But I've lost 20 and he's lost 10. I asked in the original thread what you were going to do. I am in total support of your decision! Hey, if it's right for you then keep on keepin on girlfriend!!! You can accomplish it!!!

[Laurel86]

Thanks Will!!

[JDru]

We're here for you Laurel and I want you to stick around!! It's so helpful to have a support system. Good luck with WW...be sure to keep us updated.

[NurseTeresa]

Wow see what happens when a person goes to sleep. Laurel.....believe me I understand how hard it is to make the decision on what to do. To want something and not be able to obtain it sucks. I wish you the best of luck with the WW. I have tried that among numerous other things and with working 12-16hr third shifts it makes it hard to eat all the points that are needed. I know other people who have been very successful on WW. I will be here to support you no matter what it is you chose. Diet exercise band rny anything... Just let me know if there is anything I can do for you! This is a wonderful place for support let us be here for you!

[chrispygal]

You know Laurel I find that with the band what you eat is almost just as important as how much you eat. So with a band or without a band, Weight Watchers is great for you! I'm sure you'll do GREAT! :)

[renitinker]

Laurel-
:cheer4:That's a Great start! I did Weight Watchers for 2 years. I lost 100lbs. It works! Stay strong! Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it. You can! :yahoo: If there is a chance that you might want to do the band later I would diffient keep going to the Nutritionist. That way they can document you ups and downs. If the insurance company still denies it- Appeal!

Keep up to date with you progress! Remember- Never give up and Never give in!:boxing:

[Alicia521]

Laurel, we all are here to support one another in our weight loss journey. We have several unbanded folks that are active on the site. Obviously the focus is around the band on this site as it is a band site, but we all have the same goal - to be healthy, lose weight, and live a healthy life. I did WW 3 times. My first time was before I got married and I lost 20 lbs and kept it off for about 6 months, the other times I don't think I lost as much. I just didn't stick with it or I probably would have done well. Regardless of what method you chose to lose weight, it is about food choices and exercises and keeping up those healthy choices after you lose the weight. We all have the potential to keep off the weight just as much as we all have the potential to gain it back. Bottom line is that bad choices get us to where we are. I agree with you that you are still young have you haven't really exhausted all of your efforts of trying to lose without surgery. WLS is a major decision and while relatively uncomplicated, it is still surgery. There are risks with any surgery. So I will support you 100% with no matter what you choose. The important thing to realize with any weight loss efforts is to focus on healthy food choices and exercising. Those two pieces are the key. I really do wish the best to you and hope that you can keep off the weight for good!