Strong guidance reaallyyy needed

[Txblue_eyedqt]

Hi all...its me Cynthia.... I havent really posted much at all lately, but I have been reading the post....I have been in a Major slump and need help, guidance or anything anyone can offer me.....I will try to make my long story short.....I just feel helpless right now......about 2 months or so ago I had a little trouble with my feel being too tight...well they removed all the fill for 1 1/2 weeks...(torture)LOL...and then about 2-3 weeks ago they allowed me to have ..mmmm i belive 2.2 back in....NOTHING....it did nothing.....well here i am still today and I have gained about 10 pounds and feel horrible about it, and my image.....I do have another apoinmtnt for december 15th...(cant wait)...and am hoping they will add enough to give me the restriction I need to get this ball going again....I feel like when im not as adjusted I feel more willing to eat the "bad" foods even though i know what they will do to my body, but i do it anyways......
I look at Heathergurl, telly, lots of yall with the success and motivation and strength you have to keep the good work going......what do i need to do to reagain my "strength" and focus on this wonderful ride called the Lapband.....I have worked to hard to loose the weight I have to fall back in that deep dark hole.....I want to be focused and eat right and exercise and be motivated the way i was in the first year of my lapband life.....any sort of advice would be greatly appreciated by me.....im at my wits end and it even upsets me sometimes.....hopefully this has made some sense...i tend to bable when im trying to say everything thats going on in this mind of mine!! LOL....thanks yall for listening...

[Kathy]

Okay, I'm trying to get deep and philosophical, but my mind is mush (as it is most days) and the best advice I have is Log Your Food. Eat it, whatever it is, just log it. Once you are in the habit of logging, it doesn't take long to look at your numbers and go "oops". Then you start getting picky about what goes down the pie hole. Oh, and Be Nice To Yourself. Even Telly and Heather have their off days. (I don't know this for sure but I'm banking on it...heh) Oh, and remember that movie with Cher and Nick Cage? Moonstruck? *slap* "Snap out of it!!!!" *slap* *slap* There, does that help? :D (((hugs))))

[SheryBery]

Cynthia,
Take a few minutes and look back at how far you've come! 75 lbs. is huge, girl! Think of how long it took to put the weight on and know that it's not going to come off as fast as it went on! Oh how I wish it did! You've had great success so far....focus on that. I'm sure you have to be physically feeling better so think back to how you felt before and how much better you feel now. This whole trip is such a huge mind game, at least for me. I'm my own worst enemy and I continue to come here to read everyone's success stories and their struggles and it helps me know that I'm not alone. And neither are you!
Sometimes I feel like I have to just focus on 1 minute or 1 hour at a time and I can't look too far ahead or I get overwhelmed at how far I still have to go. But we've come this far and we're NOT going to fail....OK???
Take good care, and love yourself! You're doing a great job.

[paula]

Ummm, promise you wont slam me for this?

Call your GP and get an appt for some diet pills. You won't get addicted to 'em, and just taking them for a week or so will help get you back on track!

[Kathy]

Ummm, promise you wont slam me for this?

Call your GP and get an appt for some diet pills. You won't get addicted to 'em, and just taking them for a week or so will help get you back on track!

YES! :nod:

[Jachut]

Its really easy to look at others and think they've achieved so much (which they have) but they do have their bad times too. To someone else it would look as if you've had the dream run. Go easy on yourself.

It does take the right fill to make it work and the only thing you can do in the absence of that is hang on tight and batten down the hatches. We've all dieted for a week or two at a time before and we all can do it. So can you.

[HeatherGurl]

I have been wondering where you have been girl!!!
First of all the only thing that keeps me on track is this board. Me checking in here daily and reading others tips, advice and confidence keeps me going.

I am most certainly NOT the perfect bandster. I would never claim to be. I haven't been to the gym this week because we had a big weekend and I am too tired and lazy to go. I have had a French Vanilla Cappucino from McDonald's every day this week! BUT, if that scale starts to read one more pound, that is when I buckle down.
I tell all of my friends here at work that the key for me is that perfect restriction. I do not eat as properly as I should but the small amounts of junk that I may consume don't hurt me because of my great level of fill. No lie, I can not eat more than a cup of food at a time. I only eat when I am really hungry and I am VERY lucky that my band seems to be working it's butt off for me now. I am not seriously trying to lose weight now, but I am just more active and eat less, so I guess that is working.

Cynthia, if you check in here with us, we will be the get up and go that you need girl!!!
DON'T STAY GONE FOR SO LONG!!!
We miss you!!!!

[housecatgirl]

Sounds like you need a fill. Oh and good to hear from you...I guess we were all wondering what happened to you.

[Telly]

I just saw this thread and I'm sorry you are in a slump but it's time to smack yourself and get up. Just get up and do it. Exercise and eat right. Loathe it, hate it, scream at it but just do it. Once you lay down to sleep...you'll look back at your day and be thankful that you did right by yourself.

I know it's easier said than done but it CAN be easy.

I have days where I simply dread even getting out of bed. I look at the time and I think "oh god, not again" meaning I have to start my day all over again with the food consumption and the gym workout regimine. Believe me, there are days where I go to lay down and say "screw that, I ain't goin nowhere" but then I get this guilty feeling and I beat myself up about it to the point where I just get up and do it.

I, like Heathergurl..am NOT in no way, shape or form "a perfect bandster". But the beauty of losing weight is that everyday is a new day and it's never too late to hop back on the bandwagon and start the loss again.

So yesterday was an "Ooops" day for you. Today is a "Yeahhh baby" day. 10lbs? Psssssh! You can knock that off by next Friday and then you are back on track.

I'm here for you if you need a swift kick in the ass. Just come to Kissimmee for a week, free to stay at my crib. :D

[mrs_christy]

You guys are all awesome, have I ever mentioned that? Seems like the only time I come on is when I am losing, but that isn't why this board is here. This board isn't to only gloat when things are good, but to get help when they aren't. Hell, I just ate 2 tater tots and some nacho cheese sauce and feel like I ate a horse.

I tell you, this band has been so rough. I never thought I'd have the feelings I do. But instead of taking over this thread I'm going to make my own. I just want you to know you're not the only one out there that feels like crap for eating like you shouldn't because I do that at least once a week. But you know what, I dont do it every day anymore, and I am hoping that the mistakes get farther apart over time. 22 lbs in 5 1/2 weeks, what do I have to complain about right!

Chin up and congrats on your weight loss. Join me in using the board for what its meant for...SUPPORT. Nobody will beat you up unless you WANT them too. Thats what I'm here for! :heh:

[Telly]

*hides the louisville slugger*

[NewSho]

Hey, Cyn!
Well, sounds like you need a Texas-sized fill, hon.
You've been banded a long while - so you know the drill.

I'm not a fan of being overfilled but I'm totally not a fan of the 'unfill.' The one and only (knock wood) time I got a partial unfill; it took me a while to get back to good restriction again.
I don't know, it's not scientific but my theory is that:
Unfill = less restriction when begin to you re-fill.

So I'm sorry for your overfill experience but it sounds as if you're ready to tip slowly back into the fill waters. Heck, if you get a little bit every couple of weeks until its a good level for you, then great.

But unlike many others, I didn't get the LapBand to test my powers of willpower. That doesn't work for me - so if I'm underfilled, I don't lose. Looking at your stats, you are hoping to lose another 80# - why would you try to do that without using your tool effectively?

There's no need to beat yourself up. Luckily this tool can be adjusted and unlike some bypass forms of surgery, there is no 'expiration date' on how long you can lose.

But please dust yourself off, pick yourself up and make a fill appointment.

You can definitely do this, believe me.

[Txblue_eyedqt]

thank you all for your words...kind or rough!! LOL....sometimes you need a kick to get you back going....
I am scheduled for a fill 12-15-06..and trust me I cant wait....I never thought I would say that...(giggling)....but Im really hoping the fill they give me this time will do something, cause at $150.00 a pop makes it hard to get a fill.... it takes me months to save up for that!! LOL
I know not one person is a perfect bandster, but lots of people sure do make it look easy.....I am going to try my best to start stayin on track with everyone here....and hopefully when im adjusted tighter my eating behavior will change again also....
falling off the stupid wagon sure does hurt....LOL but im tryin hard to get back on!!!
thanks yall for listening....

[diva girl]

Hi Cyn,

You've gotten some really good advice here and I'll just repeat some of it that I think would really work for you:

Start with drinking water. The correct amount every day. It's easy to do and make you feel like you've gotten a "win", once you do it.

Log your food every single day. Write it down or put it into Sparkpeople or Fitday. Every single bite, good or bad.

Join the Commitment Thread here and commit every day to what you want to do. Since you have no restriction, don't try to consume the same cals you did when you were filled. Just try to maintain until your fill and commit to those cals that will help you to do that.

MOVE. Just get up and move each day.

Good luck to you!

[Telly]

Yes Diva is right!

The most important thing you could do right now to help you is keep a food journal. It's imperitive. Count your calories. Though tedious it's really important and it will help you.

["Just" Paul]

Cynthia...


Watch out, or Telly will take ya out back, and beat the sh1& out of ya.

She kicked my a$$ the other day, and it still hurts... and that is just over the web... geez, imagine what she'd do to you in person.:heh:


Don't worry, you get there... take it one day at a time, and soon the days will blend together and you won't even realize that it is happening!

We're all here for ya!!!!

[Txblue_eyedqt]

hi yall....well one more week till my fill!! yeahhh i cant wait...
and yes Telly..please beat the crap out of me!! I need it....to wake me up and get me back on track...LOL
thank you everyone for your advice/support......Im trying my hardest to make it next friday @ 10:15am!!!!! Fill City Babyyyy

[kebsa]

I agree wth Kathy, I'm finding that logging my food ( fat/protein/calories), is really helping. It can sound like a pain but for me it has become just a part of meal preparation_ I use fitday.com and tend to update my log when I come to check out the message boards. Its jsut becoming habit now. Having said that, don't be too tough on yourself- youve lost 75pounds which is the equivalent of a 10yr old child!!!!- an achievement not to be sneezed at!!
Karenb